When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. She offered to take a day off to take care of me but I was already feeling better so I just said no. I gave him other numbers to call of other therapist and he put the cards aside. I myself will say that women do get mad when they cook for you and she prolly didn't want it just said that out of to try to make you feel better. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. If there IS, it's usually in a complaint or verbal assault on someone or something, that irritated him, again, "at the moment". But I havent been acting like it. I could barely limp about and it was rapidly getting worse. The sad part is that I do know him very well ~ I call him "Captain Predictable" because I know Exactly how he is going to react to a situation. WebYES, YOU CAN! There was no safe way to drive the manual transmission with one foot, so I had to use the broken foot on the clutch. He loves, smoking, drinking, games, cars, machines, jokes and flirting. I do believe the process may work if it s just adhd or adhd lite and there aren't significant co morbidities or emotional, physical or substance abuse and life is stable otherwise, ie no major financial complications. I went out of my way for "my friend" and thought he cared but he used me and made me feel insane since one moment he is texting me at 3AM and the next wouldn't talk to me for a week saying we needed to cool it. I understand what you mean. Of course my Hcalled right back saying he could not hear his phone(yet his friend heard his on the 2nd ring). Ive had back and chest pain on and off becoming more frequent. Its me, me and my illness, that dominate our life. Clearly you know it's a problem and you're still in that relationship and most likely going to have kids with him yourself and then act like oh no poor me I still got married and had kids with the guy that's treated me like crap since day one. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. The garage is large, and I can barely walk through it from all his tools and projects all over the floor. No one has ever taken a day off when I was sick . I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. 3. I was too kind, wanting to help TOO much, and didn't set boundaries. He still ignored andhung by the pool by himself. That's his job. Sorry guys, I just had to vent and get it out of my system. However I do notice every time I'm sick, my husband acts as if he sick. Whichever it is, I wasted most of my life trying to make something work that couldn't. No excuse on either side. My In-laws and husband were there, along with our daughter. That is when he finally paid attention to me and accepted that I was sick. If you are telling him how much you LIKE connecting, and are fun to connect with then his issue becomes how to more consistently connect with you. It was a costly move but I just was happy he was getting help. And vice versa if she's the one down ill. Can't really prepare good food when you're nauseous and fked up all over. So if you want to connect, you will likely be the one to have to bring it up. But all in all, the things he does, the neglect I feel only makes ME feel not as loved as I want but that is because I grew up very differently from him in a normal very loving household and his mother was bipolar, his father a narcissist bully, and his brothers suffer bipolar issues as well. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sun, 04/16/2017 - 10:08. Talking to a friend may be helpful, but you might also consider discussing your feelings with a mental health professional. I started treatment and with the antibiotics and things you get sicker before you start healing. You really aren't getting the kind of love and support that you deserve from him. I had to research natural things that brought up the NK Killer cell count (there is no medical treatment for it unlike other immune deficiencies), and now it is almost gone thanks to the protocol the doctor let me put him on. I drink a gulp of beer and a stoke of cigar and really feel love..for that moment. Submitted by Punkin on Fri, 03/10/2017 - 07:12. This is not ok. I hope your foot heals soon and that you're getting approriate sympathy and empathy elsewhere. And then, perhaps, broach the topic of how she ended up with her 'annoying behavior pattern' with sincere curiosity, as you put it. Good point. Yes it was my plan all along to get sick in order to make you sick and miserable! And one of the most troubling scenarios where you see this is when the wife becomes so upset that she cries and the husbands response is indifference, anger, frustration, or denial. Someone who at times would look at me and just smile, (as if we shared a special secret), with eyes that showed gentleness, patience and strength, but with a reverent humility. Maybe a spouse is a lousy caregiver, or just as sick if not sicker; maybe you never noticed till now that certain local family members are better at receiving than giving. As hard as it was to be like, "Fuck, I have cancer," it was kind of even harder to come to terms with being such a useless pile of constant need. A perfect opportunity to "prove" himself right ~ WRONG! If you live together, your partner may want to sleep in their own bed with you. So I don't ask for anything beyond desperate needs. He didn't sleep well last night because he was stuffed up, coughing, etc. And for this, I am truly, deeply sorry. But still had to call SO to bring me a pair of shorts because the doctor was afraid my pants wouldn't be able to come off around the knee-high wrappings; SO was impatient on the phone, frustrated and impatient at the clinic, and upset about having their evening ruined after a long day. I invite him to things I know he will say no to just to be nice but then I go and enjoy myself. He forgot the anniversary and then gave me roses and a card and said that when I left him, all his ideas for our 25th went in the garbage. People are either takers or givers. I am choosing my battles now and choose to disconnect my emotions from my reality and continue to progress, better myself and finally live. Fortunately, I feel a little better now. I shouldn't have to and I take very good care of myself after 27 years and a complete role reversal. Submitted by tiredmomma1 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:12. I'm glad that's 'not in your nature'except that it is. She was probably raised in a household without empathy for sick people. If you want to connect with your partner the 'trick' is two fold. Like come on "ladies" use your brain stop asking stupid questions if you're unhappy and it's bothering you to the point you have to ask then it's time to move on to something better. Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 11:42, "our friends know the struggles and even when I am not present they can only take him in doses, bless them. I m not saying it s right, but I am not putting in the effort for someone who lies to my face about everything. The entitlements and abrasive treatment of others. So pick your battles my friends and learn about yourself in the process. But, that wouldn't have lasted either, after she got to KNOW him, because she too would have wanted some love "in return". I was recovering from major surgery ~ he saw it that I had 6 weeks off from work! And now that I have, I have a new perspective. And, to feel loved in return, you need to be sexual with each other. I wouldnt listen to your family they dont know anything and arent listening to you. Yes, I agree, and am in the same place. Once in a while he says hello but its almost like it never happened. Maybe she doesnt even realize shes doing it. Consequences. Make sure he understands how much you like the connectionbut also how hurtful it can be when it's inconsistent. I hope you left him. All big red flags. You are not important. Some people wait until the water is visibly murky before performing maintenance on the tank. ExpectingH to become someone he cannot/will not be is futile. When my husband found out he was angry and said " I can't justify spending that kind of money. They want something done and over with, right then. Wanting to CONNECT? His answer was absolutely not. Germaphobe type thing? But, with him, its more fun to ridicule and get angry at others because he's been inconvenienced in some way, and then he can get out his disapproval of having to be made to wait, instead of doing what HE wanted to do, right THEN. I do this sometimes. I got a friend to help, the truck, got a place to go, separated the bills (still paid his cell and medical in case he went to therapy), wrote a letter and tired to live with him without acknowledging his last tantrum, my pain and still having sex and accepting his hugs and sucking up to me and trying not to cave or vomit. I have been happily married for 22 yrs. We all experience them. Then came 2013, January. God forbid that I ever get anything serious. Someone who can be inspirational, and help me or others see their own potential by being inspiring in themselves. My husband is friendly and nice until I am sick. Which to that, I feel he used me to have someone to marry and to love HIM, but he knew he wasn't going to return that. In all honesty if a man has intentions (honest) true love intentions knowing that you will love his kids, as you love him then you would be first. That is when a person is the I can not tell you how much I can relate to you and everyone else that has posted. I do believe he loves me. How would you like her to act? Haven't had so much as a hug and a kiss in sympathy. No, that's not normal in a loving marriage. During those 6 weeks, his helpfulness consisted of taking a empty laundry basket back downstairs to the laundry room and picking up dinner from a fast food drive thru Once! Nothing sexual ever happened but after 2 years of him love bombing me, calling me hot, beautiful, his soul mate, his twin, etc, he would discard me when I got too needy and hoover me back in when he needed an emotional pick me up. It always boils down to me getting sick on purpose! Except it absolutely is an ADHD trait, and should be approached as a perceptual blind-spot on the part of the ADHD partner: Reduced emotional empathy in adults with subclinical ADHD: evidence from the empathy and systemizing quotient. Was she sick recently and you didn't pay attention? Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. Fear,is the one that gets the most use, and what he bases most of his interactions with. I am, however, hesitant, super hesitant, to engage when 90 percent of what comes out of his mouth is a lie. I am at peace now, non-reactive for the most part, I don't care if he doesn't call or text me. The house is in shambles, and is a complete mess everywhere you look.It looks like I stepped into a scene from "Hoarders", the television show. Yeahand just imagine trying to trust people when you grow up with everyone telling you you don't fit inand if you let that pain in all the time, instead of shut it out, you would be a puddle on the floor. You go through all of this, the burden of having a partner with a chronic illness who is always sick, the worry when I dont text back for a while and you know Im home alone, the household chores I cant do, not because you dont care about my illness, but because you care about me. Not flu/COVID/serious illness. Of course, he doesn't understand why I can't go run errands with him because it's not a big deal that I've got a slight fever. Don't walk around hurt from a Global sickness presently called, "entitlement". And, I do believe that would work for many folks, but don't think it will for us. Submitted by vabeachgal on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 08:25. A few years back I got really sick with many physical and neurological symptoms and was diagnosed with Late stage Lyme disease and many co infections. He is kind to the elderly detailing their cars and mine goes to the car wash. When I'm sick no one asks what I need to make me less miserable. My husband is terrible when it comes to this. Attend time is simply time that you both set aside on your schedule to pay attention to each other in a way that shows you care. They ruin too many peoples lives. Sometimes, he can be vindictive in a passive way, like after I left him for that one month. Female here sick and tired of whiny twats like you. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. We had been friends for years and talked here and there. I told him I am sick but he tells me to get rest and took off to entertain himself. In the first instance, you get his buy in. He shows no concern for me - and this has to be narcissistic personality disorder. Being intrusive and obnoxious so my partner would pay attention to me. Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. He wrote me a letter saying how he fell in love in college, and she left him, and he didn't want to feel "that hurt" again, so he basically shut "that part" of himself down, so that he wouldn't FEEL that. It's not even his fault because stupid idiot "women" like you let men like him treat you like crap. I think so. You should probably be checked out by a doctor. Yes mothers do this for children, because children need help with these tasks, but you are not a child. After recovering from several hospitalizations, she went on to get a B.A. But the AD/HD is so strong, it overrides that. Dont gauge this for the rest of your marriage. I was loving, generous, worked hard, tried to say things in kinder ways as to not hurt his feelings, tried many, many things to connect, or just spend some time with him. Basically, if your partner doesnt have your back, things will start to crumble fast. Got plenty of time to think about it. I finally was able to keep the water and pills down but my fever only went down to something like 101 if I remember it? Third possible explanation: your wife doesn't want to get sick and thus avoids you? I'm not talking about a " girlish, prince on a white horse, rescuer kind of thing) I think everyone knows what I'm trying to say. Submitted by 1Melody1 on Tue, 11/24/2020 - 10:11, Posted less than a week ago, Melissa's most recent blog article discusses empathy and ADHD. They will always be more important than you. There, youll also find thoughts and questions by our community. Even worse when these DisneyDaddys, lol are looking for a life partner, the first thing that they rub on your face is the: my kids come first b.s. Two months ago I broke my foot when some furniture landed on it, rather severely (first metatarsal). I truly don't think he SEES the damage that all of this caused me AND him, mainly because he still doesn't think his ADHD has that much affect on our daily lives. Mistake on my part expecting a bit too much help from my partner. The grass wasn't greener on the other side but my grass would probably never be any better so there needed to be changes on my side. Duped again. It is not only me he has no sympathy for, it is his children as well. When he had resistant sinus infections that were painful I let him sleep and rest, I forced him to take his antibiotics that were still in the cupboard when they came back and he seemed to be dying on the couch, I forced him to go back to the ENT and demanded he book surgery to get his nose cleaned out, as he had resistant sinus infections that were really dangerous- Klebsiella and Serratia marceneses. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 16:40. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Thu, 04/13/2017 - 16:22. She says take medicine or go to doctor. I have an illness. Thanks, man. He is withdrawing from you, and youre feeling alone. This is a never ending cycle that doesn't ever stop. Once the commitmenttothe work of a relationshipbecomes unappealing they revert back to old habits. We are at retirement age, but will never GET to retire. My wife wants to be left alone, and I mean ALONE. Yeah, I remember when she was sick and I was doing everything for her as I just let her rest. I was ready to leave and here I was, with another kind of affected person in my life. Are you 5 years old? But, he can't get past the victim hood yet. After I broke my foot, the Orthopedist put me in a non weight bearing cast. WebIt is not a crime to not care for a spouse when they are sick. My husband had the worst tantrum in front of a third person. And that look on his face is what I will always remember. You only get 1 life and your life matters, period. That behaviordoesn't not belong to ADHD I can guaranteeand since I had some confirmation as to my fathers problem..I can say that in his casethat was NPD! That's just But, again, that is in the "now", but what about the "not-now"? It means you're a dumb ass push over that loves acting like a victim. My husband responded to me that if I went on medical leave I would have to stop seeing my doctor because he wouldn't pay for it anymore. Maybe I was expecting something like that. This is what it's been like living with my ADHD husband as well. Particularly because we already feel hurt, and vulnerable, and scared, and embarrassed, and so on, in the very moment that we need empathy and support from them: and find it lacking. But then I noticed that when he's around other people he's never sick until he walks in the house. However, I work andtake care of the house and the kids. You also don't have a role model to teach or even show you HOW to connect. Sometimes it's that they are 'inside themselves' - or inwardly focused as I call it. I was about to turn 40 and here I was watching a grown man turn red in the face, speak horribly to himself for a broken scraper. It wasnt until recently that I found my voice. Submitted by Resentful on Fri, 03/16/2018 - 09:54. Obviously. Qualities many w ADDdo not possess. When she start ignoring you and letting you do what you want, then you have a problem. to stand on my own and realize that until he gets help, this will not change and so it was time to live and grow and be "the mistress of my domain and my life". With my dh, he doesn't react well to any kind of situation when his filters are down (and always always at home) -- there was that time when I fell against a window in a freak accident -- breaking my humeris and dislocating my shoulder on the radiator at the same time. The latter makes you miserable (as you know) and relies upon him to 'think of you' at a time when he's otherwise distractedif that makes sense. I said no. I am sorry for your situation. I have no compassion in my heart for this and I have no means to find it or excuse this as anything more than totally Fucked Up Shit!!! For many years, Larry Bocchiere cared for his wife, Deborah, who struggled with chronic obstructive pulmonary disease. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to give me a kiss and I tell him that he shouldn't kiss me because I'm getting a scratchy throat and most likely a cold and his response isn't one of sympathy, instead it's "Greeeeeeat! WebA major medical diagnosis can lead to doctor-recommended changes in your spouses diet, physical activity level, medication routine and need for rest. Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Thu, 04/13/2017 - 17:29. Bottom line? 2023 ZIFF DAVIS CANADA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. It was like neither of us care that we were damaging our marriage. Newly wed so some things are quite new. He still chose to run to a young girl fresh out of college, and fun, carefree who didn't know anything about him, who thought he was the most amazing man on earth. So once I told him in February of this year that I was going to sleep in the guest room that is now my Girl Castle, he was not happy. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while she's going through the flu or whatever. I guess its just a character flaw of his! with love respect and truth! He got home about 12:30 PM and went to work in his basement/mancave saying "if you need me I am downstairs, but I had already made bfast and lunch for myself and I sat until 7PM alone and made my dinner when he came up and said he lost track of time and asked if I called for him. He played video games.A LOT, and watched a lot of movies, and cook his food in deep fryers which has made the house smell like an old dirty grease pit, with the cupboards, shelves, and countertops, floors, all caked with grease. She will come in and ask me if I need/want anything and see how I am doing. This is the extent of OUR now/not now difference when it comes to love. I think that it's true. This becomes a real problem for me in one area especially. His kids are always going to come before you. Would she normally kiss you before going to work? But I truly think my husband is being a pussy sometimes. His mother died in a plane crash, this would finish him off if I left, etc. Isn't THAT ironic? If you are in the full He went and played soccer that night when I was feeling my worst. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to Sure, my H would love the extra attention and more positivity but the very sad fact is that I have had to live my life on guard. But I believe I am blessed with many friends. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! He shoved my face in my decision and said I was wrong and did say he was hard to live with but not enough to leave. However Ive come to the realization that hes not the same as me. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. If your betta lives in an unfiltered setup youll need to completely change his water and clean his tank weekly. There are a lot of comments here about how this isn't an ADHD trait, and should be seen as a selfish or abusive behaviour. How does someone even DO that? My husband believes he's Mr. Fix-It, and can fix anything. Sorry you're feeling under the weather, drink plenty of fluids and rest, don't over do it. registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without Later Ilet him know I am very sick and need some help. I'm feeling better now! 1) Shes never on your side. And vice versa. Some people have zero bedside manner. She was diagnosed with a mood disorder and anxiety in 2008. I'm curious to see a female's perspective on this, especially someone who has been married to see if this holds true. I dont expect to be doted on and coddled when Im sick, but some level of Your partner sounds as if he's not good at transitions (i.e. And what Ive learned is, thats exactly why Im with you. When I got to the ER and they did a CAT scan, they said it was about to burst. I think that men get used to a female (their mother) taking care of them while they are children, and subconsciously they maintain this view as they get to adulthood. Terms. He is loved by many, not evil. Should also consider the stress my wife is dealing with at work. I have learned to compartmentalize my life and he is 20% of it now. I want to say Thank you for sharing your story. Yes, he also doesn't notice if I've become disconntected - I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. I would have been down on my kneesbegging for forgiveness.for making me go swimming with 104 degree temperatureand not believing me or showing the concern when I was told that I was sick and didn't feel well? Anyway..it was really serious and I can't ever remember being that sick before in my life and it was horrible right? Yes my H also has ADHD, but it's not ADHD that causes his horrible behaviors, particularly when I'm sick/injured. What should I do? Yeap. I will always do my best but not at the price of my sanity.". I take care of her in sickness and in health.but our kids still come first. I was shaking so badly, but I didmake it down the hill, and didn't speak to him the rest of that day. Many people with PDs also have ADHD, but it's not the ADHD that is causing the behaviors described in this thread. To us I should say. Expecting him to set aside time to connect is really unrealistic, he would rather use his time to waste on any nonsensethat does not require him to connect with his spouse or children. Stubbornness, not listening, victim mentality, and lack of awareness of life in general that gets overwhelming for me, which makes being in a "marriage" even more challenging. WebSign #7: He doesnt ask you any questions about you and doesnt seem interested in who you are. You're not the victim the kids are. I wish you the best. Ask for forgiveness. We havent heard from you in a while, and Im hoping you are ok. I pretend I am single and take care of me and my home for me. (regardless of what his mother did to him when he was small) Somewhere insidehimself, he knew he was holding back, and still did it, to his own detriment and the detriment of our marriage and love. I mis calculated the drop, my crutches went out from under me, and I fell, landing flat on my back on thecement patio, hard. And, yes, I am 100% sure it's not all ADHD. WebIm worried about my chest pain. I was really pissed and hurt that he didnt seem to care. Your wife is negative because she doesn't know how to deal with her angry/upset/self-loathing emotions so she projects them onto 'faults' that you have. How can she stop? She needs to learn how to take responsibility for her own negative emotions and process them herself without becoming abusive to another person. A male. She even acts like I am somehow putting her out by not being 100%. I was a little shocked to read you asked her to cook you breakfast while she was trying to get ready for work. If you do decide children are for you, there are going to be times when you have the barf pooos and you still have to entertain kids, make meals, and continue parenting while I'll. 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